Remember to check in with your partner afterwards. Affirm them when they do something really great, and talk about or provide some direction when things could be tweaked or improved. Consider asking about the things you’d each like to try in the future too, if that’s an option.
“I loved when you ____ (action).”
“Next time, I’d love to try using my vibrator / tying you up”
“Pillow-talk? How’d that go for you? Anything we can do better next time?”